Ep. 55 - Forgiveness

Forgiveness is an easy subject to talk about but a hard one to execute. There are a lot of perspectives on what forgiveness is and how you do it in everyday life. For example, you’ve probably heard the phrase, “forgive and forget.” Or the counter saying, “forgive but not forget.” Is it really possible to do either one? How can you really forget when someone does you wrong. And if you don’t forget it, can you really forgive? I’m not sure if we have a good answer to these questions but we do know forgiveness is essential to building a healthy marriage. If you don’t, the unforgiveness will fester underneath and eventually blow up into a major argument or worse. So how can you forgive the worst of sins and are there times where forgiveness is impossible? Listen to this episode where we attempt to give you the proper perspective on forgiveness so you can incorporate it into your marriage. 

Key takeaways:

• Why forgiveness is essential to marriage

  • It affects you mentally, emotionally and physically

  • Intimacy slowly goes away

  • Frequency of arguments increase

• You can forgive without forgetting

  • Letting go so it doesn’t affect you emotionally

  • Don’t give up your power to the past

  • Forgetting a birthday vs infidelity

  • Can’t just tell your spouse to forgive and forget. You need to heal the wound

  • Forgiveness doesn’t mean you can truly trust that person

  • Trust will have to be earned

• Forgiveness is not a sign of weakness

  • Forgive but don’t be taken advantage of. Don’t be naive

  • Unforgiveness only hurts you

  • Forgiveness gives you the courage to move on.

• How do you know when you’ve truly forgiven?

  • Honest assessment that it doesn’t bother you emotionally and mentally

  • You stop bringing up the subject

  • You can actually love the other person

  • Strengthens the bond

• Power up you marriage workshop